The Poison is Not the Problem. Chasing the Snake Is.

Imagine being bitten by a snake. But instead of tending to the wound, you run after the snake angry and desperate to know why it bit you.

Meanwhile, the poison spreads.

This is how many of us move through life. Someone hurts us. Betrays us. Walks away. And we spend days, months, even years chasing the “why.”

Why did they do this to me?

Why was I treated this way?

Why didn’t I deserve better?

But the truth is most of the time, we never get the answers we’re looking for. And even if we do, they rarely give us peace. Because healing does not come from understanding someone else's actions. It comes from tending to our own pain.

Every moment spent seeking justice, fairness, or closure from outside is another moment the poison spreads slowly affecting our heart, mind, and soul.

What Happens When We Keep Chasing the Snake

1️⃣ The pain deepens. We relive the wound over and over, allowing it to grow instead of fade.

2️⃣ We give our power away. Our energy remains tied to the person or event that hurt us.

3️⃣ We block our growth. As long as we focus outward, we avoid the deeper inner work that brings true transformation.

4️⃣ We stay in victimhood. Waiting for answers keeps us stuck in the past, unable to move forward.

5️⃣ We reject support. By trying to handle it all ourselves, we miss the healing that comes from turning to a mentor or guide who can hold space and help us rise.

The shift happens when we stop asking, “Why did this happen to me?” and begin asking, “What can I learn? How can I heal? Who am I becoming because of this?”

Five Powerful Tools for Healing

1️⃣ Turn inward. Journaling, meditation, or stillness helps you process emotions rather than avoid them.

2️⃣ Feel to release. Let yourself grieve, cry, feel anger—fully and without shame. Expression leads to release.

3️⃣ Forgive to free. Forgiveness is not for them—it is the moment you set yourself free from the weight of their choices.

4️⃣ Create new meaning. See the pain as an invitation to grow, strengthen, and evolve into who you were always meant to be.

5️⃣ Seek support. Work with a mentor or guide who can hold a space of truth, compassion, and clarity while you heal and reclaim your power.

You don’t need the snake to come back and apologize. You don’t need the reason they bit you.

You need to heal. You deserve to heal.

This is how you grow from Victim to Victor.

What have you been chasing, and what would change if you chose to heal instead?

Much love, Nazanin

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